Diagnosed with Breast Cancer and Scared - READ THIS!

Just found out you need surgery for your Breast Cancer and you're scared, but…. It’s Not Time For That!

Getting ready for your surgery is an emotional time.  I have been there! I get it.   Do you believe that our mood affects our health? I can tell you, 100% that it does.   When we are depressed, stressed, and tired, our bodies are not at their best.  Many admit getting sick, laying around the house, and just not feeling like doing anything.  Now compare that to the person that feels strong, optimistic, and excited!   Completely different actions, emotions, and viewpoint - right? 

It is with that same comparison that I want to talk to you about something important you need to do before surgery.  Get positive!  Please know that you are going to do GREAT!  The Dr.s are so good at what they do these days.  This is a very common surgery, one that is done every day across the nation.  In fact, did you know that 1 in 8 women will face breast cancer in their lifetime?  Let’s just say we are all in good company.  This is not a surgery that comes with high risk like other surgeries.   Be clear on that in your mind.

But how you think - how you feel - before this surgery matters.  I want you to do me a huge favor - from this moment on, anytime you have a negative or scared thought, just tell yourself “It is not time for that!”  Tell yourself in your mind - “NO.  I will not think about that - it is not the time for it.”   Put off any of that negative, awful thinking.  You know what I am talking about.  What will I do if?  But what if?   I know this advice, to some, may sound … well, dumb.  But - I had 3 surgeries, and the 2nd and harder one - I was in a good place.  I was at peace.  I didn’t allow anything negative to bounce around in my mind.  I told myself it was not time for that.   No “what ifs.”  And I recovered TWICE as fast from the more difficult surgery.  Why?  Because I was not stressed out, thinking about negative garbage. I fully believe it has to do with stress hormones, and how our body responds to what we think about. 

So do me, your family, and yourself a big favor - only happy, positive thinking right now.  OK?  Deep down, I didn’t believe it would matter.  But it really did! So my advice to you is do things you love.  That means weeks, not minutes, before surgery!  I love watching animals on Facebook and IG.   They make me laugh!  I love watching huskies talk back to their masters.  I love watching baby goats jumping around and being cute.   Set up an entire account to watch the things you love.   Keep it artificially happy, upbeat, and lively.   Unfortunately, our minds are powerful little instruments.  If we feed our thinking on the things we fear, things that will make us feel bad, we honestly weaken our ability to heal more quickly.  That’s exactly what I did on my first surgery.  So I can speak from experience.  I was wrong! This is advice from your Pink Sister on what you NEED TO DO!   Even if you feel, deep inside, this is silly (believe me, I did) - trust in it.  I promise it works!   And let your family and friends know the same thing.  Send them the link to this article.  Everyone should be talking about the good after you recover.  None of this gloom and doom thinking.   Also, I strongly recommend after reading this you check on my article about Keto.  This was helpful to me after my recovery.   It has given me hope and confidence about the future, and that I can and will be well!   You can too 💖   


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  • Kristi Holmes on

    Just diagnosed 12/4/23 with DCIS Stage 0. So very lucky I was diagnosed so early. Non-invasive. After 25 years of having issues with mammograms, I have decided to do a double mastectomy on 1/12/24. I received the pillow from a very good friend of mine. Thank you for making these items that will help all with surgery and after care! It does help to be positive. Remember we are strong and we will get through this!

  • Lavan Crayton on

    I recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. They received my MRI, so that changed my life. So I am having both breast removed. I received my pillow early than expected I’m so happy for that and I love my pillow. My surgery is December 1st, 2023

  • Jo on

    Diagnosed with DCIS & IDC Grade 2-3 recently in 3 areas of left breast. Seeing the surgeon this week. Anxious & nervous

  • Jodi on

    Hi, I’m new here. Diagnosed 10-10-23. IDC and Metastatic Lymph node. They won’t start treatment until they have Pet scan results in hand. Won’t be until possibly first of year. I’m scared. Stunned I can’t get treatment right away.

  • Mary on

    I will be with my daughter before and following surgeries for double Mastectomy same day as hysterectomy.
    I think I can handle the medical things, drains, etc. However,
    is there any advice for what to say and what not to say regarding getting up when I think she shouldn’t and handling lots of visiting friends whom I do not know.
    Any thoughts would be appreciated.



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