Diagnosed with Breast Cancer and Scared - READ THIS!

Just found out you need surgery for your Breast Cancer and you're scared, but…. It’s Not Time For That!

Getting ready for your surgery is an emotional time.  I have been there! I get it.   Do you believe that our mood affects our health? I can tell you, 100% that it does.   When we are depressed, stressed, and tired, our bodies are not at their best.  Many admit getting sick, laying around the house, and just not feeling like doing anything.  Now compare that to the person that feels strong, optimistic, and excited!   Completely different actions, emotions, and viewpoint - right? 

It is with that same comparison that I want to talk to you about something important you need to do before surgery.  Get positive!  Please know that you are going to do GREAT!  The Dr.s are so good at what they do these days.  This is a very common surgery, one that is done every day across the nation.  In fact, did you know that 1 in 8 women will face breast cancer in their lifetime?  Let’s just say we are all in good company.  This is not a surgery that comes with high risk like other surgeries.   Be clear on that in your mind.

But how you think - how you feel - before this surgery matters.  I want you to do me a huge favor - from this moment on, anytime you have a negative or scared thought, just tell yourself “It is not time for that!”  Tell yourself in your mind - “NO.  I will not think about that - it is not the time for it.”   Put off any of that negative, awful thinking.  You know what I am talking about.  What will I do if?  But what if?   I know this advice, to some, may sound … well, dumb.  But - I had 3 surgeries, and the 2nd and harder one - I was in a good place.  I was at peace.  I didn’t allow anything negative to bounce around in my mind.  I told myself it was not time for that.   No “what ifs.”  And I recovered TWICE as fast from the more difficult surgery.  Why?  Because I was not stressed out, thinking about negative garbage. I fully believe it has to do with stress hormones, and how our body responds to what we think about. 

So do me, your family, and yourself a big favor - only happy, positive thinking right now.  OK?  Deep down, I didn’t believe it would matter.  But it really did! So my advice to you is do things you love.  That means weeks, not minutes, before surgery!  I love watching animals on Facebook and IG.   They make me laugh!  I love watching huskies talk back to their masters.  I love watching baby goats jumping around and being cute.   Set up an entire account to watch the things you love.   Keep it artificially happy, upbeat, and lively.   Unfortunately, our minds are powerful little instruments.  If we feed our thinking on the things we fear, things that will make us feel bad, we honestly weaken our ability to heal more quickly.  That’s exactly what I did on my first surgery.  So I can speak from experience.  I was wrong! This is advice from your Pink Sister on what you NEED TO DO!   Even if you feel, deep inside, this is silly (believe me, I did) - trust in it.  I promise it works!   And let your family and friends know the same thing.  Send them the link to this article.  Everyone should be talking about the good after you recover.  None of this gloom and doom thinking.   Also, I strongly recommend after reading this you check on my article about Keto.  This was helpful to me after my recovery.   It has given me hope and confidence about the future, and that I can and will be well!   You can too 💖   


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  • Susan Beachler on

    I have recently been diagnosed with Stage 1 IDC. Mastectomy last week of October. Depending on Oncotype chemo may follow. It’s scary and every time I get a bunch of new information it takes several days to settle back down. Long long walks are helping. My doctors are great. Thank you for sharing and your pillow. It helps to read everyone’s posts. I know I am not alone.

  • Lois M Buesch on

    The tops were terrific. The pillow was my “fellow traveler” for all car rides.
    Question: I live in the Chicago area and want to donate these gently used items. Any suggestions?

  • Cindy Thomason on

    I found you on Etsy and I’m so glad I did!! Your story helped me out with so many options of keeping a positive mindset through this whole process. I am having my second surgery and looking so forward to having this behind me. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I’m forever a supporter! Your costumer service is very fast!! Thanks too for helping me place the correct number of the order. So sorry about that!! Looking very forward to receiving & using my mastectomy pillow… and I love the print😍
    Wishing you the absolute best!!!! 💗

  • Porsche Richardson on

    Thank you for making such amazing products! I was reading another survivors blog and she mentioned a mastectomy pillow she received as a gift. I googled the pillow and found your website. I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma 15 days ago and will have a bilateral mastectomy 12/1. While I have had moments of breakdown I have also had moments of insane laughter, joy and some really awesome workouts in the gym. Long walks have also been a saving grace. I have an amazing support system and after getting more sleep I find myself waking up with a positive mindset. I am grateful for your and other blogs that help me to get a better understanding of what is to come. Thanks again for making such incredible products! I can’t wait to get my hoodie!!!

  • Scottie on

    Thank you for sharing your story. This is my second time around with being diagnosed.. I know I am the best hands and just like last time I will be cancer free again!! Prayers and blessings to everyone that have beat cancer, newly diagnosed, and re-diagnosed we will be fine and win again. We are SURVIVORS and WARRIORS!!



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